Anonymous: do you think Emma Frost is straight?
You can literally ask me this of any character and my answer will always be no. All my favs are queer!
I think Emma Frost was created to uphold heterosexuality and heteronormativity in about 100 billion ways.
She’s sexy but only men think so; women sneer at her and call her a ‘bitch’ and treat her like a challenge to be defeated. She’s literally never shown having any female friends; hell, she isn’t really shown having that many male friends, either, certainly not ones who aren’t attracted to her sexually/ objectifying her at some point or another. The only one I can think of is Hank McCoy (which is ironic because Abigail strikes me as similar to Emma in certain ways— I would think she has the type of personality Hank is attracted to, as opposed to all these other men who are attracted to her exterior and despise her for her assertion outside the bedroom). My point is that Emma in the comics is all about sex, all about sex with men, about seducing them and dominating them and being objectified by them. There aren’t enough interactions with multiple genders/ varied situations beyond that to make any real assertions about Emma’s overall romantic attractions, or emotional ones, or intellectual ones, etc.
And I don’t think this is a flaw in Emma as a character; I think this is a flaw in how the writers have the world reacting to her, and how they keep her in this little box where somehow she’s managed to both become the headmistress of an X-school and yet only fit in at all thanks to her connection to Scott Summers. And she’s been there for years, working hard and doing what she can and making mistakes and learning from them just like the rest of them do all the time and yet no matter what she does or says no one likes her and no one talks to her or hangs out with her or treats her like she would be worth anything if it weren’t for Scott. And that makes me furious. And it also feels extremely heteronormative to me in a lot of ways. The only way she’s allowed to connect with people is through having some sort of sexual relation to them. And the only way she’s allowed to have value is through these connections to powerful men (and this has been true throughout the entirety of Emma’s storyline).
Do I think there is textual evidence to support Emma being queer, given all this? Not particularly. I don’t really believe there’s that much evidence to support her being straight, either. Yeah, we see her dating and loving men, so? We never see her saying she would turn down other genders if the sexual/romantic/whatever opportunity arose. I would say that there’s plenty of evidence of her being allosexual, though I would be willing to debate that and accept demisexual instead given the extreme power dynamics in a lot of her relationships (as in, sex for her may not be about sex nor sexual gratification in many instances but more about dominance, social standing, etc).
Considering the sexual society Emma navigated for years I’ve no doubt she did explore or consider exploring a more queer approach to sex and sexuality at some point. And as that hasn’t been addressed directly in the comics, I consider it completely fair game for anyone who wants to go ahead and fill it in with their own headcanons and have them be treated as valid.
Finally, there’s no real proof of Emma being cis either, though I would say she definitely strongly identifies as a woman.
So that’s my thoughts on Emma being queer. My feelings on Emma being queer are: yes, give me more.
And then [Vimes] realized why he was thinking like this.
It was because he wanted there to be conspirators.
It was much better to imagine men in some smoky room somewhere, made mad and cynical by privilege and power, plotting over the brandy.
You had to cling to this sort of image, because if you didn’t then you might have to face the fact that bad things happened because ordinary people, the kind who brushed the dog and told their children bedtime stories, were capable of then going out and doing horrible things to other ordinary people.
It was so much easier to blame it on Them.
It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone’s fault. If it was Us, what did that make Me? After all, I’m one of Us. I must be. I’ve certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No-one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them.
We’re always one of Us. It’s Them that do the bad things.
— Terry Pratchett, Jingo (via captainofalltheships)